All About Relationships

Many people feel that in this fast pace world, one must be always in a state of urgency. In this society, one should be seen as a busy and associates “busyness” with importance. These people are always seen walking in a fast pace, rushing here and there, stopping only when they have a task for someone else.

Now, take a moment to think of these questions. Have you seen any successful person always in a rushed state? If you are an employee of a corporation, have you seen any top management walking around the grounds like a high speed train? Have you heard of any gurus, presidents or top CEOs giving speeches as if they are rushing off to a meeting? I doubt so. All these successful people are always calm and relaxed and one of the most common traits is their confidence. When one is confident in what they are doing or saying, it is normally done in a moderate pace.

Especially in a relationship, one has to go slow. Trusting another is one of the fundamentals in any form of relationship and trust is also one of the hardest to achieve. It has to be slowly nurtured and accumulated, with numerous actions and words, in order for the other to trust the other. This is one of those “once bitten, twice shy” type of thing. If you displayed just one action that betrayed the trust the other party has on you, you would have to spend much more time and effort than the previous time to get back the same amount of trust. In some relationships, one would never get back the same type of trust and the relationship is void.

In an office environment, many of us are guilty of being impatient and interrupting peers and colleagues when in discussion or even chats. This encourages both parties to speed up their speeches and thinking. It in turns makes both parties irritated and losses the focus of their conversation. It is also the cause of many arguments. Furthermore, one has to be in a calm state of mind to be creative and rational. When one is interrupted frequently, he/she is hurried and the thinking process will not be as creative and logical. Thoughts are not processed thoroughly before speaking out. Thus, mistakes or less than optimized decisions are more likely to be made.